Unhealthy Management – A Human Rights Violation?

Nearly three years ago the U.N. Commission on Human Rights issued a little-noticed but groundbreaking resolution. It authorized the Secretary-General to appoint a Special Representative to investigate human rights abuses by transnational corporations and other business enterprises. The mission was charged with setting standards for corporate responsibility and accountability in such areas as discrimination, pesticide poisoning, child labor, drinking water contamination, sexual abuse, and the displacement of indigenous peoples.

This mission has focused corporations on the impact they have on people’s lives and well-being within the global arena, regarding human rights. But another category of potential human rights violations by corporations exists which gets scant attention. In fact, most companies probably don’t even think of it as a human rights issue. It consists of corporate management practices and behavior that damage the mental health – and therefore the work performance -- of a company’s own employees.

Today, within our ever-shrinking world of heightened exposure of worldwide human rights violations by governments, instant communication, and a growing sense of global citizenship, it’s time to broaden our conception of human rights violations beyond the inclusion of harmful corporate practices described by the U.N. mission. Psychologically damaging management practices towards a company’s own employees should be defined as violations of human rights, as well.

How Bad Management and Leadership Harms People

Over the last thirty years I’ve worked with the consequences of emotionally unhealthy management and leadership upon people who suffer from them, from the mailroom to the corporate suite. They span a wide range: Abusive, hostile, arrogant bosses. Manipulative, deceitful leadership, including actions by members of senior management teams towards each other. Extreme, workaholic demands resulting in severe burnout and diminished productivity for the organization. Demeaning language, intimidation and threats, both subtle and overt. Public denigration and humiliation. Manipulation, political maneuvering and discrimination.

Sometimes an unhealthy senior leadership culture disseminates downward through attitudes and behavior of executives and mangers. The result is an absence of high-performing, energized, engaged employees or the innovative teamwork companies need to stay nimble and competitive.

In short, unhealthy management practices fuel emotional conflicts among employees who weren’t overtly troubled prior to working in that environment. In other cases they exacerbate prior emotional conflicts that were either dormant or well-managed by employees prior to experiencing unhealthy or abusive management.

Typical consequences for individuals include depression, rage, severe stress or anxiety, withdrawal, paranoia and, increasingly, lawsuits. These are common knowledge on the “ground level.” Is there anyone out there who doesn’t know someone – or who hasn’t directly experienced – some version of the above as the price of trying to cope with an unhealthy work culture?

Viewing such conditions from the framework of human rights leads to the argument that men and women should have the right to work within both a physically and psychologically healthy workplace. One that conveys respect, dignity, fairness and clear opportunity for reward for productive work, not just in lip service through “mission” or “value” statements but in actual conduct.

Some might object to defining abusive management towards employees as a human rights violation on the basis that such practices are less severe than, say, exploitative child labor or unsanitary, environmentally toxic working environments. Or, that you can almost always leave a job if you don’t like how you’re being treated. But similar arguments used to be put forth about racial and gender discrimination by companies, and we’ve expanded our view of workplace human rights to include protection from them.

The main barrier to recognizing that emotionally harmful management is a form of human rights abuse is more subtle: When companies acknowledge a link between emotional disturbance and the workplace, they look at emotional troubles that some people bring with them to the office. For example, depression, alcohol and drug problems, severe anxiety, uncontrollable anger, and acute family crises. These are real, often debilitating conflicts that people may experience for reasons largely unrelated to the work environment. They can and do affect a person’s job performance or relations with co-workers. But these problems concern how the person impacts the workplace.

The more pervasive and insidious conflicts for both employees and the long-term success of companies are those on the flip side: how the workplace affects the person.


Why Companies Should Pay Attention

The role of corporate management in creating emotional conflicts for employees is not so visible – except, of course, to people on the receiving end. Yet evidence exists that a company’s management, including it’s organizational culture and the conduct of its leaders – how companies treat their people in “real time” – has direct impact on the mental health and work-related behavior of all levels of workers.

Data about the damage caused by emotionally unhealthy work environments has been growing. Nearly 10 years ago, the World Health Organization elevated the status of “workplace stress” (a broad term that mostly reflects the impact of mentally unhealthy management) to that of a "worldwide epidemic." Today, the impact of an unhealthy workplace environment on the employee is estimated to cost American companies $300 billion a year in poor performance, absenteeism and health costs.

Similarly, a report by the International Labor Organization in 2000 found that work-related emotional conflicts cost the U.S. about 200 million lost workdays each year. And a recent study by a British charity, Mind, concluded that nearly 13 million working days in Great Britain are lost each year as a result of work-related emotional conflicts, and that businesses are failing to meet the mental needs of their employees. Such conflicts are one of the most common health problems in EU countries, as well. A European survey on working conditions found that 28% of workers reported emotional conflicts caused by work. Similar data have been reported by Canadian businesses. And in Japan, a survey found the percentage shot up from 53% in 1982 to 63% in 1997.

These surveys may be just the tip of the iceberg. Deb Matteucci, director of the Montana Mental Health Association, points out that "Workers often cite the physical symptoms, such as headaches, chronic pain or digestive disorders as their reason for taking leave, but often untreated mental health problems ... are the underlying cause." It’s well established, today, that emotional conflict can weaken the immune system and make people more vulnerable to a host of illnesses.

Companies have a clear stake in treating emotionally harmful management practices as a human rights issue and taking steps to create more positive, healthier environments. Without doing so, they undermine the performance and commitment of workers. The lost workdays, diminished productivity and less innovation generate higher costs to the organization. Such practices also hurt a company’s reputation, including its ability to attract and retain high-quality talent and, eventually, it’s success in the global marketplace


How Companies Deal With The Problem

Many companies are addressing problems after they arise, from whatever source. They’ve had to, because of legislation. The U.S, Canada, the U.K. and other countries have created legislation that recognizes, protect and treat overtly disturbed employees. For example, the U.S. has the Americans With Disabilities Act, and joint efforts in Canada between government, private business and civic groups have a similar focus. Currently, voluntary corporate initiatives include health information dissemination, wellness programs, Employee Assistance Programs, and classes for dieting and stress-management.

These are helpful. But companies have been slow to face up to what they can do at the front end: dealing with emotionally harmful organizational cultures and management practices that hurt both the employees and the business. They’re starting to be pushed into doing so, however. Again, from outside initiatives. For example, 11 states have introduced legislation prohibiting workplace abuse by management. This model legislation was developed by Suffolk University Law School professor David Yamada. It defines the scope and features of the more visible end of the spectrum – abusive, bullying, demeaning behavior.

That’s a start, but companies would be wise to become more proactive. Those of us who have worked with leaders in this arena know that some respond only after getting a wake-up call. They realize that their companies are losing their competitive edge or market share and that part of the reason is that they’re increasingly perceived as undesirable place to work.

More encouragingly, others want to deal with this problem at the front end. They’re intent on building positive, healthy management cultures because they realize doing so will help them stay competitive and retain their best employees. They know that is what grows their people’s capacities for innovation, cutting-edge thinking, and the psychological and cultural competencies needed in this global economy.


What Do Workers Say?

Such leaders are in synch with what today’s career workers look for in companies. Surveys and research show that men and women across generations – from 20-somethings to baby boomers – will commit themselves to organizations that practice positive, healthy management: Collaboration, teamwork, a clear reward and recognition system, and transparency at all levels. They want companies led by open-mined but confident people who embrace the often-unsettling tension that accompanies new terrain and new challenges, and use that tension to energize and lead. Those are the most effective and successful leaders, as Robert Rosen has documented in his recent book, Just Enough Anxiety, based on studies of 250 CEOs and other senior executives.

Similarly, a 2005 Survey of 8000 workers, across all age groups and occupations, by Concours Group, found that the most productive, energized workers gravitate towards companies that provide opportunities for ongoing learning, growth and creative challenge. And they want their work to have a positive impact on something more meaningful than just the narrower rewards of money, position, or power. They also want the service or product they work on to have a positive impact on people’s lives.

A range of other data confirms similar themes. A 2007 survey by MonsterTRAK found that 80% of those surveyed said they want to work in a job that has a positive impact on the environment. And 92% said they would choose working for a “green” company. Other research shows employees working at companies with clear corporate social responsibility (CSR) programs are most satisfied. They stay at their jobs longer and are more content with senior management then their peers at companies with lackluster CSR programs, according to a survey conducted by Kenexa Research Institute.

And among those entering the corporate pipeline, a 2007 Hill & Knowlton survey found that three-quarters of top MBA students say corporate reputation will play a critical role in deciding where to work. They cited quality of management among the key drivers of corporate reputation, and 40% rated social responsibility as an "extremely" or "very" important measure of reputation.

All of the above are the kinds of features found in the best management cultures. People seek out and stay within organizations that provide them. They leave those that don’t. Notice that you won’t find many of the latter on Fortune magazine’s annual list of “Best Companies To Work For.”


It’s clear that successful companies in the years ahead will not be those who abuse the human rights of their employees while parading around as good corporate citizens, but those who actually practice respect, fair treatment, openness, and collaboration, along with vehicles for continuous learning and growth of skills, knowledge and talent.

Defining those management practices that create abusive and emotionally unhealthy work environments as human rights violations would raise the bar and help corporations recognize their vested interest in eliminating such practices. It would encourage them to create the kind of organization that people gravitate towards.

Smart, effective leaders know that a high functioning work force, positive, healthy management and high quality of goods or services go hand-in-hand. They recognize that positive management behavior includes ethical conduct, socially responsible and environmentally sustainable practices, as well. All are intertwined with successful business outcomes. The result is good practice, and good for business.

Moreover, the actions and conduct of companies are increasingly transparent anyway. They’re held accountable by stockholders, consumers, governments, and they’re being impacted by lawsuits when violations occur. We live and work in a world in which information can be instantly Googled, You-Tubed and video-phoned around the globe. People can learn about any kind of abuse almost as soon as it occurs. As corporate practices towards employees are increasingly exposed, leaders would do well to realize that the slogan from a previous era is now literally true: “The whole world is watching.”

March 15, 2008

April 02, 2005

Understanding The 'Marriage Gap'

American society is undergoing some major shifts in how men and women think about marriage --whether to enter it, stay within it, or consider alternatives to it.  But some recent explanations about what these shifts mean contribute more confusion than clarity.

First, some facts:

• The divorce rate continues to hover at around 50%, regardless of greater awareness of the potential emotional and financial impact of divorce upon couples and their children.

• Polls find that about 60% of those surveyed accept affairs; and about 30% actually admit to having had one.

• The marriage rate has dropped by 37% in the last four decades

• Cohabitation has risen dramatically during the same period

In 1960, 430,000 unmarried couples were living together.  By 2000, that number had soared 12-fold to 5 million.  Today, only 2.3 million couples marry in a year.  It’s possible that cohabitation is on its way to becoming the dominant form of  male-female unions.

Clearly, people are thinking and behaving differently about marriage than previous generations -- especially how necessary or desirable they think it is compared with other forms of intimate partnership.  This raises questions about how best to understand these shifts, and what they portend for the decades ahead.

Some answers have been provided by socially conservative organizations, such as the National Marriage Project and the Institute for American Values.  But these answers are shaped by an ideological agenda, rooted in two convictions:  First, that divorce and cohabitation are social evils, to begin with, and should be curtailed through legislative action, whenever possible.  And secondly, that the best social arrangement is the traditional marriage (heterosexual only, of course) in which the wife is a dutiful subordinate; an unequal partner.

Such self-described “pro-marriage” groups seem especially annoyed by the facts that people do divorce; that many others choose to live together without marriage; and that both men and women want more equality in their relationships than previous generations  -- even though they don’t know how to achieve it.  Ironically, opposition to these realities actually undermines the overt goal of these organizations: to support stronger, positive marriages.

Let’s look at two findings that these groups have interpreted, and then consider a very different way of understanding them.

Together....Without Marriage

First, the rise of cohabitation and the decline of marriage.  The allegation by anti-divorce groups is that this trend is bad, by definition.  That cohabitation is the result of behavior by “irresponsible” men, and is the source of decline in marriage rates.

For example, the National Marriage Project, headed by sociologist David Popenoe, reports that the steady rise of cohabitation and the continued several-decade decline of the marriage rate provides “evidence” that men “want sex without the responsibility of marriage.”

Based on a survey it conducted, the Project claims that men are more inflexible and less able to make the compromises needed in marriage and family life.  And therefore, they want to avoid it.   In short, cohabitation is their free ride, because men can “have sex” easily without “having a wife” to go with it.

This is a pretty cynical view of men.  But the report conveys a distorted view of women, as well, by implying that it’s only men who want sex without necessarily marrying.  Perhaps its authors never watched “Sex and the City.”

And no mention is made of the many couples who are fully committed and responsible to each other, but who are not legally married.  Either by choice, or -- if gay or lesbian -- by legal barriers.

The Project concludes that men “delay” marriage because of their “irresponsibility.”  But what do they mean by “delay?”  The median age for first marriage for men is 27; for women, 25.   You could say -- with equal logic -- that women are prone to marry “prematurely.”  Yet the Project appears to believe not only that early marriage is good, per se; but that men are the perpetrators of this alleged “delay.”

When you look at the actual reasons men gave for not marrying, the Project’s slant is even clearer.

Reasons include:  wanting to enjoy single life; wanting to avoid the risk of divorce if the marriage doesn’t work out; waiting until they own a house before marriage; and waiting until they are older before having children.  Many saw children as responsibility they were not yet ready to deal with.

Now pardon me, but those reasons sound pretty mature, not irresponsible.  It’s commendable for a young man to say that he wants to hold off marriage until he feels more solidly established, emotionally and economically.  That shows patience and planning.  It’s certainly more responsible than a premature plunge into a legal contract, with all its financial and emotional consequences.   Does anyone really think that you’re better equipped for undertaking that in your early 20s?

Groups like the National Marriage Project and others with similar ideologies can’t allow themselves to understand social change through any lens but their own.  What doesn’t fit gets filtered out.  For example, they ignore the fact that 70 percent of those who live together for at least five years do marry.   And two recent surveys presented at the Annual Meeting of the American Sociological Association in 2002 find that women are much more likely than men to spend longer periods of time in single status.  Moreover, both men and women are now likely to spend about half of the years between 18 and 59 with either no sexual partner at all, or a non-co-residential dating relationship. So much for the notion that it’s men who are “delaying” marriage.

None of this sits well with those who push getting and staying married, no matter what; and who despise social trends that expose dissatisfaction with or rejection of traditional marriage roles and relationships.

“Happiness” and Divorce

A second set of findings, reported by the Institute of American Values, conveys a similar ideology-driven “read.”  It’s a survey of people in unhappy marriages who either stayed or left.

The Institute reports that people who left troubled marriages were  not much happier five years later than people who stayed in their unhappy marriages.  Their conclusion?  That people should stay in unhappy marriages, because things might get better, later on.

There are a couple of problems with this line of reasoning, aside from it’s not making much sense.  One is that it doesn’t mesh with the rest of the research literature.  For example, the well-known University of Virginia marriage researcher E. Mavis Hetherington has found that 60% of divorced people eventually end up with new partners, in positive relationships. 

Moreover, women, especially, tend to do better after divorce, on their own.  For example, a recent survey from Center for Disease Control and Prevention finds that  women who divorce are much less likely to marry again than women of their parents’ generation.  Only half of them marry again or are even cohabiting after five years.  In fact, the Center reports that one of the most significant trends in the past half century has been the marriage rates of women who already have been divorced.  It’s down dramatically from the 1950s, when two-thirds of divorced women remarried. 

From the standpoint of positive human development, the declining remarriage rate among divorced women is probably a good thing.  It shows that women today are thinking differently, perhaps not as locked into the notion that they “need” to remarry and “have” a man for a fulfilling life.  Not repeating the same mistake is a positive shift, both for themselves and their potential partners.

Another problem:  The Institute tangled together several factors. For example, it included within the same category people who were separated and those who had divorced, when assessing “happiness.”  Any mental health professional will tell you that people in the midst of separation are the most distressed of all, emotionally and financially.  That period of transition is hardly the best time to assess “happiness.”

Post-break-up happiness is a complex issue, dependent on many factors -- the impact on children, the financial picture, and --  most importantly -- the relationship between the ex-partners.  But the Institute made no distinction between bad and good separation or divorce.  Nor did it assess the subsequent impact of those factors upon later “happiness.”

Moreover, the survey didn’t take into account how people define happiness.  It can mean very different things.  For example, a cover for resignation.  A belief  that alternatives are not possible or not worth the effort.  Or it might reflect new growth, genuine resolution of conflicts, and deeper intimacy.

Topping it all off is that the majority of people who stayed within their troubled marriages is the fact that the majority of them believed that divorce was wrong, to begin with.

You could say that the only clear fact emerging from this survey is that not many people are truly happy with their relationships -- married or divorced.

What Women...And Men Really Want

And that leads to what I think is a better read of these data and social shifts:   The steady rise of cohabitation is not the cause of the decades-long decline of marriage.  It’s the product.

That is, divorce and cohabitation are not the problem. Bad marriages are.   

The real challenge is learning how to make long-term relationships better serve adult needs for emotional, relational, sexual, and spiritual connection; for partnerships of equality and sustained vitality.  Until then, divorce or serial relationships will remain a desirable option for many.  Even better, of course, is avoiding early marriage.  As one man joked, marrying for the first time at 38, “I decided to save a lot of emotional pain and money by ‘skipping’ my first marriage.”

William M. Pinsof, a noted family researcher at Northwestern University, recently examined divorce and its social implications in the journal, Family Process.  He argued that the concept of being married for life is simply no longer a valid expectation; that divorce must be “normalized” and other “pair-bonding” unions accepted as society continues to evolve.

In his perspective, current policies, theories and practices about marriage are out of step with the new realities of couplehood that had emerged by the end of the 20th century.  He advocates acknowledging and respecting the realities of how people actually pair up and live their lives, today.

This is the sort of thing anti-divorce, pro-traditional-marriage groups can’t accept.  They are locked into a vision of society in which couples stay together at all costs; in which divorce is eventually eliminated as a social evil.  And as far as non-marriage or same-sex couplehood...well, don’t even think about it.

But the truth is, marriage no longer plays the role it once did.  It’s outgrown its traditional purposes.  Previous generations married largely for procreation, acquisition of property and financial security (especially important to woman, who have been disenfranchised throughout most of history).

But the downside of traditional marriage was the quality of the relationship itself:  Often low-level emotional intimacy, inequality regarding power, and unsatisfying sexuality.  A good portrayal of traditional marriage is found in Virginia Wolf’s novel, To The Lighthouse, which conveys the sadness of the sexual and emotional constraints of the traditional but “successful” marriage.  It’s not all that dated, either, 75 years later.

Polls and surveys show that most men and women reject old-style marriages, today, although they struggle to create a better model. They know that most relationships tend to devolve over time into what I call a “Functional Relationship” -- one that “works,” but mostly in a transactional way, with diminished levels vitality and emotional connection.

This happens because men and women learn to engage in relationships that are, essentially, extensions of adolescent romance.  This includes struggling for control, hiding out regarding emotional needs or vulnerabilities, and equating excitement with newness.  All of this builds in decline and boredom over the long run.

So it’s not that  people no longer care about long-term committed relationships.  They’re looking for a different kind of marriage or equivalent partnership than what now exists.  They just don’t know how to achieve it.  Consequently, they are open to different kinds of arrangements that better serve what they want.

Both men and women want sustained connection and vitality over the long-run; an adult love relationship.  You see this in surveys, such as a 2000 Gallup Poll and in research that finds that both younger and older men and women -- straight or gay -- want to find a “soul-mate” who will be their lifelong partner.  They report longing for lifelong relationships of  vitality and connection in all realms -- emotionally, sexually, and spiritually.  And,  with the same partner.  Whether midlife baby boomers or young adults, men and women say they want to avoid breakups and serial relationships. 

A gap does exist between what men and women want in their relationships and what they discover they end up with. But what is clear -- and encouraging -- is that men and women are looking for an alternative that works better, whatever form it takes. 

The key question emerging from all this is:  What do adults need to learn in today’s changing culture that would enable long-term relationships to strengthen and grow -- whether through marriage or cohabitation; whether in opposite-sex or same-sex unions? 

This is what should be commanding research and clinical attention, rather than trying to make divorce, cohabitation, or the desire for sex outside of marriage disappear.  It would be far better to put that energy into learning how to make long-term relationships  better serve the needs of adults today.  This kind of front-end approach would result in people being less prone to turn to divorce as a conflict-resolution device.

That is, conflicts that lead to divorce -- a back-end solution -- are far more likely to be avoided if couples have learned how their romantic partnerships can serve their shifting needs and desires through the decades of adulthood. 

This quest is especially important today, an era of increased longevity, greater health, and lengthier careers.  Increasing numbers struggling with midlife developmental needs, such as defining a sense of purpose; building greater equality and power-sharing in their relationships, both at home and at work; and in general, nurturing their emotional, creative, and spiritual lives.  These are the issues all of us deal with once we’re past young adulthood.  All of them impact our intimate partnerships.

When you have several decades of midlife and old age to look forward to, it makes you think long and hard about the relationship you have with the person you’re living with, day-in and day-out.